Question by Homeschool Mom: How do I tell a pushy mom to stop dropping her kid off and expecting me to give him a ride?
One of the things my sons, 13 and 14, most look forward to is Friday homeschoolers’ skate day at the ice rink near us. The kids skate in the morning and, more recently, we go to a computer gaming place in the afternoon, where they play computer games with their friends.
One father has started dropping off his 16 year old son at the rink in the morning on his way to work. When the skating time is over, her son stuffs his skate bag into my car, hands me a 5 dollar bill and tells me what he wants for lunch on the way to the gaming place. His mother waits for him in her car in the parking lot when the gaming afternoon is over. The first time this happened, I told him that I wasn’t responsible for getting his lunch, but I did anyway. I mean, “Bob” is over six feet tall and must weigh upwards of 200 pounds, but he is still just a kid, and I know that I should talk to his parents about just dropping him off and assuming that I will drive him to the gaming place and get his lunch.
I KNOW that I DO need to get a backbone. I feel bad for the kid, but he is loud and rude. I’m uncomfortable around him, I don’t like my boys around him, and his parents just don’t respond to subtlety. Not that I see them to confront — as I said, his dad drops him off if he sees my car in the skating parking lot. His mom picks him up in the gaming store parking lot. I WILL try to catch her this time.
I like the idea of saying that we have errands or the car is full, but this prevents me from offering a ride once in a while to the kids that ARE my sons’ friends. Besides, this kid WILL say, “I’ll come along for the errands.” or peer into my car and say, “It’s not full!”
He was kicked out of a homeschooling group with older kids (he’s 16, my boys, 13,14.) because of language and behavior, and he’s attached himself to us. I DON’T like him, and I feel guilty not liking a 16yo kid and his rough, clueless parents.
Carpooling: No. My sons in their car over my dead body.
Answer by njyecats
just tell him you can’t, tell him you have an errand to run first or there’s so much stuff in the car there’s no room.. He’s old enough to call his father and ask him for a ride.
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